Not the Perfect Parent? One or two realities
I put up my youngest two girls' school photos today in their bedroom. No, I'm not mean, but a whole class shot doesn't interest me as I have no desire to display a lot of children my daughters do not mix with or even know that well upon my walls. Therefore, individual photos go on the hall and lounge walls. Class shots go on their bedroom wall. Simples!
Anyway, I digress. As I was hammering in the picture hooks with a hammer that was clearly too small for the job, I realised that a lot of what I had read about being a parent was, well, quite frankly,
You will need locks on cupboards in your kitchen or your child will crawl up, open the cupboard and drink all your bleach. No. #1 cupboard locks are the biggest pain in the
Baby monitors. A necessary evil for most of us but oh boy, are those companies now
I weaned my eldest at 12 weeks, I know, shocking isn't it. How could I confess such a hideous crime against my child (shoot me now!) and not keep her on pretty much milk for 6 months. But guess what? She's had no problems from being weaned early. Back then, (15 years ago) it was the done thing. See, they (who are *they*?) say that's wrong now. Paranoia sets in again. She was always a great eater, she still is (except she currently hates mushrooms she informs me - well honey, if you can pick them out, you can leave them on the side of your plate).
She also refused to be breastfeed as a baby, so she had formula from birth (shoot me again) and certainly hasn't suffered illnesses/lack of immunity or any such things poor newbie parents are warned about than my youngest two who were breastfeed for the best part of 5 months (as is the 'new' way of thinking - yeah, right). In fact, my middle one wanted more than just milk earlier than the 20+ suggested weeks so I started to wean her early. Did I ask 'permission' to do so from the health visitors? Did I heck! I just got on with it.
My youngest breastfeed almost constantly. I recall taking her to be weighed for the 2nd (and last) time with a health visitor who commented - and you'll laugh here - that she was "getting a bit overweight and you need to watch just how much you are feeding her mummy". I told her straight she was BFsolely and her comment was utterly ridiculous. I never went back. Don't be pushed into changing what's right for you baby by anyone who doesn't know the full story. Most mums will know when things are right so stick to your guns.
I have to laugh to myself when I think back to plans I had, 'advice' I was given (most very good, much total tosh) and worries I had. Take a piece of advice, look up about becoming a newbie parent to get some ideas then go with the flow and try not to let the paranoia that manufacturers selling a product (yes, remember they want to sell you these things, not give them to you for the health of your baby) try to instil into you. You'll do just fine.